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Frustration.

How do you deal with frustration?

I am definitely doing it wrong.

Take yesterday for example, Isabelle fell asleep in the car for about ten seconds as we were on our way home from getting Joe’s hair cut (don’t ask why we all went, we just always do). Naturally, as it was nap time and she was clearly tired, I put her down for a nap.

1 hour later and she was still messing about, shouting ‘Mummy!’ and refusing to sleep. The thing is, she wasn’t even crying, she was playing happily in her room, but I was unreasonably frustrated. I couldn’t seem to cope with her incessant (albeit chirpy!) yells of ‘Mummy!’ when she was supposed to be sleeping. Joe was downstairs and thought that if she was happy, just leave her but I was just furious. I actually stood in the living room, did a small muffled scream of frustration and stamped my feet like a tantrumming child. It was ridiculous. Joe then of course got mad as I was being so pathetic and I ended up having to just give up and get Isabelle out of her room and she missed a nap that day. Not the end of the world, but it completely stressed me out.

Then again today, I had plans to go and visit my dad. I have to get a bus there and I live in a ridiculously shitty place in terms of transport links, which is a nightmare since I don’t drive. Even though I got most stuff ready the night before and was up at 6am, I still missed the 8.21 bus. HOW??? I had been rushing around and practically ran down the street to catch it and then I literally watched it drive past me, then stood in the street and cried. Ridiculous right?? The next bus wasn’t until 9.51 so missing this bus messed up my morning plans by an hour and a half and we trundled back home to wait for the next on.

That’s where I am now, feeling immense mum guilt because I have been moaning in front of Isabelle about how she always makes me late and how I don’t understand why it is so bloody impossible to just leave the sodding house. Yet this sweet little girl came over and cuddled my legs when she saw my tears of frustration and she is cuddled up to me now as I type because she can see how stressed out I feel.

Hopefully things will improve when I am driving, I am having lessons so it’s only a matter of time. It makes me worry about how the hell I’m going to cope with nursery and school runs though…

Does anyone else find it really hard to cope with frustration? Any tips for getting out and about easily without completely losing my shit? I keep waiting for Joe to question my desire for another child when I cant even seem to cope with the one I have already got.

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9 thoughts on “Frustration.

  1. You have my sympathy, the nap ‘scenario’ sounds so familiar! I haven’t found a magic wand that fixes frustration but I’ve spent the last few months just trying to ‘train’ myself to let it go. When my LO won’t sleep, I’ll go and try to re-settle her after 15 mins or so, then do it again another 15 minutes after that. Eventually I tell myself some quiet time is better than nothing and leave her to play. Of course, she’s not yelling “Mummy” because that would grate on me a bit too I imagine.

    I’m not sure you should feel silly for crying in frustration – it’s a natural reaction. But perhaps try and develop a routine to follow so you can move on rather than letting it take hold of you and drag you down?! I find lots of deep, slow breaths work well. That and tea and biscuits. Haha!

    1. You’re right, I always try and tell myself to pick my battles but sometimes it just gets a bit on top of me. Silly really, as she could behave the exact same way on another day and I might deal with it ‘perfectly’! Thanks for reading and commenting 🙂

  2. It can be overwhelming sometimes, can’t it? Even the simplest of things can seem like a ginormous obstacle. It is natural to get frustrated, especially when you are on a low ebb in terms of patience, energy etc.

    That’s when I am grateful to have friends who have ‘walked a mile in my shoes’ and I can get it off my chest without being judged…SOmetimes just having someone to listen and say ‘you are doing okay’ can help the frustration melt away.

    Mums are marvellous! Lets hope things get more manageable this week #FortheloveofBlog

    1. You’re so right. That is one of the best things about reading other peoples blogs isn’t it, knowing you aren’t alone and other people are having the same frustrations. Thanks for reading 🙂

  3. I am always finding myself frustrated…it’s frustrating! Sometimes things just don’t go to plan do they?! #fortheloveofblog

  4. I get so frustrated when mine don’t nap, I think ahead to the overtired cries we are going to have later! If only everything went as it should, parenthood would be a doddle!

    #fortheloveofBLOG

  5. Definitely! I could have written your blog post this morning, as it took me 2 hours to get my daughter down for a nap. I was getting frustrated, there was no need for it, but I was thinking about all the things that I needed to do – totally not important like de-weed the front garden, and comment on blog posts etc. Where my frustration was coming from, was that I was not able to do the things that I wanted to do or have some breathing space to myself, and instead had to keep an overtired baby happy. We all get frustrated, and I need to try to deal with it better, I think frustration arises when suddenly your routine changes, throwing us of track. I hope you have a better day today. Thanks so much for linking up this week at #fortheloveofBLOG. Claire x

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