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Oh My Blog: The Mothers Day Edition

Oh My Blog is a monthly interview series, where fellow bloggers come together to answer a series of questions on a specific theme. This is a chance to get acquainted with a whole range of bloggers, some of whom you may not have heard of before, and learn a little more about them! With Mothers Day being in March, it seemed only apt that this months theme was around mums and all that mum life.

Mothers day for me is all about chilling out with my family and luckily I had a day where I could do just that. My husband and daughter bought me some lovely little presents and I also received some cute little bits in the post from Hallmark in the post too, most of which my daughter has stolen mind you…the crown was very well received by my princess obsessed 2 year old.

Hallmark cards and toys

 

This month, I am hosting Laura from The Boy Equation, read on below to find out what mothers day and mum life mean to her!

1. How long have you been a mum? Introduce us to your children

I have been a mum for 10 years – a whole decade. I almost cannot believe it myself. I must be so old! And in 10 years I have given birth to three boys:

Boy 1 – The handsome, garrulous, sensitive ten-year-old.

Boy 2 – The affectionate, defiant, cheeky seven-year-old.

Boy 3 – The calm, chubby, beautiful six-month old.

Individually they are everything to me. Added together, they are my world.

2. What’s been the best thing about it so far?

Cuddles and unconditional love. I am told by mums who have boys and girls that boys are so much more affectionate, and whilst I have no girl-comparison, I can definitely confirm that all of my boys are affectionate. They love cuddles. They like to be kissed goodbye at the school gate (just out of sight of their friends!) They love to be kissed goodnight at the end of each day. Even when I am grumpy or annoyed with them, or them with me, there is unconditional love, both ways. And it makes all the tough, frustrating parts of being a mum pale into insignificance.

3. Best baby brain story. More dozy the better!

When Boy 3 was about three months old, I helped to plan the older boys’ school Christmas fair. (I seemed to have got myself on the PTA and for this event was in charge – eeek!) One of the last jobs to be done was a trip to the Cash & Carry with another mum (and a great friend and blogger, Anna @zeitmygeist). Now let me tell you, the Cash & Carry is a great place to go in the run up to Christmas, if you like special offers on booze, chocolate and Panettone (and let’s face it, who doesn’t?) However, in amongst the decisions of how many burgers and hot dogs could be eaten at a Christmas Fair, and the excitement of the Panettone packaged in amazing tins, my focus wasn’t quite on being a mum. Boy 3 had been pushed around in his buggy, sleeping soundly. So soundly that when we queued up to pay and then leave, I forgot I had parked him in his pushchair near the tills, and almost left him there. I say almost because thankfully Anna hadn’t forgotten him and politely reminded me that I might want to take him home with us, as well as the Panettone!

4. You’ve won the lottery (yay!) What is the first thing that you buy for yourself? (Not for the kiddies!)

A car (assuming I haven’t just won a tenner!) Now I am totally not into cars and am not bothered that we currently own two Fords of varying sizes, but equally high mileage, however I think my lack of interest to date has been due to a lack of cash. With a few million quid burning holes in my pockets, I would love to walk into a posh garage, see a posh car (seven seater of course!) and just buy it. I want to say to the sales assistant “I’ll take that one, in the black please. I don’t care about the emissions or the road tax costs, so long as it has DVD player to keep the children quiet and yes, I am paying cash!”

5. What’s the first thing you do once the kids have gone to bed?

Have a bath. A deep, hot bubble bath, filled with the finest Molton Brown bubbles. And a read of a trashy book. (Or write my blog!)

6. What are your plans for Mother’s Day this year?

We are away for Mother’s Day this year (by chance) in a caravan in Camber Sands, So what we do may depend on the weather, but will hopefully involve a stroll by the sea with all my boys and a nice lunch somewhere. It won’t include chocolate, as I have given that up for March (and am supporting the British Heart Foundation with my DECHOX – feel free to support this great charity by clicking here to donate.)

7. What are you most looking forward to in the years to come as a mum?

Watching my boys grow up to hopefully be kind, funny, good men. I look forward to each milestone – school transitions, birthday parties, first steps, first proper girlfriends, graduations, passing their driving tests, watching them play rugby –the list goes on. I just want them to have everything they need and be happy with their lot.

8. What’s the best Mother’s Day present you’ve ever received?

Urrrrrrm – not sure really. We do not ‘go big’ on Mother’s Day, as it falls after Christmas, my birthday and Valentine’s Day, so present ideas are exhausted. The hand-made cards from the children are really my highlight.

9. Did you do anything special or specific to announce that you were going to become a mum?

For Boy 1 we sent a photo of the pregnancy test stick to our parents (which caused confusion and had to be clarified with follow-up phone calls!). For Boy 2 and 3 I think we rang immediate family then posted scan pictures on-line. No big reveals for us. However we did announce the gender of Boy 3 with the cryptic clue on Facebook ‘Snips and snails and puppy dog’s tails…’

 10. What’s the biggest way you’ve changed since becoming a mum? Aside from now having a small human to take care of, obviously.

I spend about a quarter of the amount of money I did on clothes for me! Now I buy clothes for the boys. I love to shop but buying for them always feels more justified, and they do seem to grow out of things so quickly that there is always a need to shop. Thank goodness for growing boys to give me my shopping fix!

11. What’s the one thing you wish someone had told you about becoming a mum?

Just how hard those first few weeks would be after having my first, Nobody warned me about the physical pain, the emotional pain, the lack of sleep and the constant crying (me and the baby!) If someone had only said to me just before the birth “It will be so hard, it will really hurt and you will cry like never before, but it will pass, and it will be the most amazing experience ever”, then perhaps I would have felt more ready,

12. Be honest here… have you passed any of your bad habits on to your kids yet? We promise, we won’t judge.

Boy 2 has recently become obsessed with Coronation Street! Now we haven’t encouraged this, but when he sneaks downstairs after bedtime and refuses to go back upstairs, sometimes we don’t have the energy to argue with him and so we ignore him while he sits on the sofa next to us. Initially we thought he would get bored and go back up to bed, but it seems Coronation Street (our guilty pleasure!) is too fascinating for him. He is intrigued to know why Steve is the father of Leanne’s baby. We are not telling him, as we are not ready to have the ‘birds and the bees’ chat with him just yet!

 13. What is your absolute must-have item now that you’re a parent? One thing you can’t leave the house without or need for your kid’s bedtime. What’s integral to your daily life now?

Baby wipes! Not only do I need them for the baby who likes to poo all the time, but we use them for wiping the leather sofa, cleaning the older boys hands and faces, since they still haven’t learnt to eat cleanly, wiping muddy knees after rugby, cleaning up spills on the carpet, cleaning up vomiting car-sick children…I could go on. I think I will forever more have wipes upon my possession!

14. What’s the weirdest mum conversation you’ve found yourself having? Be it with your child, your partner or even a fellow mum? We all know we end up talking about weird stuff.

Our latest ‘sex’ talks with the ten-year old feature highly in my weird and awkward mum conversations. My favourite part (for comedy value) went like this:

Boy 1: Do a man and a woman need anything for sex?

Me: No. (Desperately hoping that is the end of the conversation)

Boy 1: Well, the man needs his penis to be sticking up and the woman needs her vagina to be slippy.

Me: (sniggers – I have no words!)

It seems he has read his ‘What’s Happening to Me?’ book, which we thought would help him to prep for the school sex talk, from cover to cover!

15. Finally, what’s the biggest lesson your time as a mum has taught you?

Enjoy every second of it. The precious moments come and go so quickly it makes me sad. I have learnt to forgive quickly, remember that they are always my babies and treasure it all. In a special moment, cuddling my sleeping baby boy in his dimly lit room one bedtime, I wrote the following poem:

Breathe him in

Breathe him in, your baby boy,

From his precious head to his tiny feet,

As soon you’ll find there comes a time

When he doesn’t smell so sweet.

 

Stroke his hair, your baby boy,

And feel its soft and downy touch,

One day that hair will be full of gel

And your rub won’t be wanted so much.

 

Hear his snuffles, your baby boy,

As he feeds hungrily upon your breast,

Before you know it he is eating chips

And pizza and sweets and all the rest.

 

Watch his chest, your baby boy,

See it gently rise and gently fall,

Soon he will hide beneath a duvet

And his body won’t be seen at all.

 

Hold his hand, your baby boy,

Entwine your fingers together with his,

It won’t be long before he walks along

And drops your hand when someone sees.

 

Caress his toes, your baby boy,

Admire the tiny footprint they hold,

In time his feet will grow bigger than yours

And he will seem oh so old.

 

Breathe him in, your baby boy,

From his precious head to his tiny feet,

As soon you’ll find there comes a time

When he doesn’t smell so sweet.

 

If you enjoyed this post and Laura’s wonderful poem, you should check out her blog and make sure you follow her on social media to stay up to date.

 

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